I was recently reminded about the need for forgiveness. Have you ever been in one of those situations where as soon as you opened your mouth and the words came flying out you knew you had made a mistake? A BIG mistake! This recently occurred with our sons. There is a seven year age gap between our two young men. (Why seven years you may be asking yourself? Because they call it labor for a reason! Giving birth is no day at the beach.)
For the most part, the two have always gotten along. More like Butch Cassidy and the Sundance Kid with one getting into mischief and the other following along. Through the years they have had their share of loud disagreements and an occasional shoving match. As a parent, especially, a mom, you are always wrong no matter what side you come down on and as much as possible you try to stay neutral so that you are not accused of loving one child more than the other.
Children, whether young or old can not phantom how a parent can love them equally and completely with all their complications, disagreements, and occasional disrespectfulness. I too, remember telling my mother she loved my sister far more than she loved me. Yes, I went through my insecure years as well. I’m sure my mother probably called me a brat on more than one occasion, but she never called me this to my face.
Hence, with my two young men, I understand their disagreement got ugly to the point of both of them storming out of the house. I was not present for the battle, but from hearing both sides of the story; truly ugly and hurtful things were said. No one can cause pain like that of a loved one because they know which buttons to push. In the wake of this battle, parents are left to pick up the pieces and send up prayers that you have raised them right. Trusting in the fact that they know how much you love them and that down the road they will remember how much they love each other. I have heard too many times about siblings that have gone for years holding a grudge against each other only to get to the end of their lives and not even remember what the disagreement was about. Think of the wasted years and the memories not shared. Because neither wanted to be the first to say, “I was wrong,” or simply “I love you.”
To my two amazing sons, remember this; Life is short, family is precious, memories are to be kept and love is to be treasured. The bond of siblings may be tested, but they should never be broken. When I think about forgiveness I turn to my Bible and the following verses from the book of Matthew: 6:14-15 – (14) “For if you forgive other people when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you.
References for Matthew 6:14
15) But if you do not forgive others their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins.”
We all make stupid, reckless statements and impulsive decisions. Those times are not our fineness hours nor are they the sum of the relationships that we have built. Our lives are made much richer by those that we call family, friend, brother, sister, spouse and parents. Those are the binds that should last throughout our lives.
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