Growing up my generation had such shows as Family Times, Growing Pains, and yes, The Cosby Show. We all laughed along with the family drama of raising children and the teachable moments which occurred by the end of the thirty minutes episode. Those television shows made being a good parent look easy and dare I say fun. And ultimately those families made us hope that our families could also have some glimpse of perfection.
The truth of the matter is being a parent is a scary journey. We began to pray for our children from the time we learned that we are expecting. And once that little bundle of joy comes along, we know what it feels like to wear our hearts on the outside of our chest. And here’s the kicker; unlike that smart phone or that new slim-line HD television that you have, your little bundle of joy does not come with an instruction booklet. How easy would it be if each baby came with a little instruction manual attached to their umbilical cord at birth? And to make things even easier, that little booklet would grow and change as our children grow.
But, alas, no such booklet exists! So as parents we stumble along trying to make the best decisions possible for our children and for our family. The kids don’t get a bath every day and the house is not always spotless, but what does exist is an unrelenting love for that little bundle of joy that we have been blessed with. Those protective instincts that we feel the moment our children are born will last throughout our lifetime. It’s a good thing that it does, because that love will endure through the teenage years when your children have more mouth than common sense and through the driving years when you are in the car with them trying to tap on imaginary brakes on the passenger side.
Unfortunately, sometimes with the best intentions we screw up royally. During those times when you mess up, don’t get so caught up in being super mom or super dad that you are afraid to say to your children, “I’m sorry.” The mistakes we make are truly teachable moments for us and our children. If we can admit our mistakes it signals to our children that it’s okay for them to admit their mistakes.
Our family lives are not sitcoms. They are much better with no commercial interruptions.
Wishing you love, laughter and a remarkable journey through this thing called family, parenting, and life!